May 30, 2017
Our relationships are where we learn our lessons of love and forgiveness in this world. How we experience our relationships reflect our beliefs about ourselves and who we think we are. They reflect the thought system we align our minds with. We need relationships in this world to learn about joining and rejoining with each other in the truth that we are all One. Yet we appear to be separate in this world. And most of us seek to be with others. This draw sits deep within our being. We are drawn to connect with each other on many levels. Relationships take many forms in this world, such as family, romance, friends, business and others. Each form has a purpose to assist us in remembering that we are all joined in Oneness and can never be separated. We learn our connectedness through the healing of each relationship we choose to enter.
The holy, or healed, relationship is an expression of the Oneness in which we see that relationship. It is an expression of the holy instant in living in this world. The holy instant never fails us. We always feel the experience of the holy instant. Yet without expression it is not remembered. The holy relationship is a constant reminder of the experience in which the relationship became what it is. Likewise, the “special” or unholy relationship is a constant reminder of the experience of what it is, the experience of separation. Each relationship is a song reminding us of the thought system with which we align our minds. Are our relationships singing a song of joy or a song of discord? Listen carefully and ask if that is the song you wish to hear.
The holy relationship, a major step toward the perception of the real world, is learned. It is the old, unholy relationship, transformed and seen anew. The holy relationship is a phenomenal teaching accomplishment. In all its aspects, as it begins, develops and becomes accomplished, it represents the reversal of the unholy relationship. Be comforted in this; the only difficult phase is the beginning. For here, the goal of the relationship is abruptly shifted to the exact opposite of what it was. This is the first result of offering the relationship to the Holy Spirit, to use for Its purposes. T-17.V.2:1-7
When we decide to invite Spirit to enter and heal our relationships, the invitation is immediately accepted. The goal of our relationships is instantly changed. This is accomplished very rapidly, but it makes the relationship seem disturbed, disjunctive and even quite distressing. The reason is quite clear, for the relationship in its new purpose is out of line with its own goal, and clearly unsuited to the new purpose we accepted for it. It now seems to make no sense whatsoever. As a result, many relationships have been broken off at this point, and the pursuit of the old goal re-established in another relationship. Once the unholy relationship has accepted the goal of holiness, it can never again be what it was due to the great conflict between goals that remains.
The temptation of the egoic thought system becomes extremely intense with this shift in goals. The relationship has not yet been changed sufficiently to make its former goal completely without attraction, and its structure is “threatened” by the recognition of its inappropriateness for meeting its new purpose. The conflict between the goal and the structure of the relationship is so apparent that they cannot coexist. Yet now the new goal will not be changed. With the new goal set firmly in the unholy relationship, there is no course except to change the relationship to fit the new goal. Until this happy solution is seen and accepted as the only way out of the conflict, the relationship may seem to be severely strained.
Keep your mind focused on the healing of the relationship. Spirit will guide you in the healing of your relationship. Remember that the remembrance of the real world and Heaven is learned through our relationships. The holy instant reminds us of our holiness and the holiness of our relationships in their natural form. Yet they will be difficult and challenging during the healing process. Allow Spirit to guide you in all aspects of the healing of any relationship. We will see its healing if we will let go of our attachment to the past and allow the divine light of forgiveness, love and healing to enter our minds. Open to the divine and healing will follow.
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